Saturday, November 6, 2010

Why Guys Don't Give Oral Sex to Girls

One young woman in the course asked that I post a blog "on why guys don't like giving oral sex to girls, find it "nasty" or whatever, yet they expect the girls to give them a BJ. I would really love to hear some of the guys response to this."



11 comments:

  1. Those are just boys...I myself "LOVE" to go down on girls!! Most guys are still trying to play that MACHO role where their narcissistic mentality has them feeling as the dominant one over the other since they do not give head, they only receive it. Some guys are just lazy and do not want to put in the effort, which is a damn shame for the ladies that need the oral pleasure in order to fully get off. The only ones that think it is "Nasty" are them little boys running around... with yet so much to learn.

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  2. Agreed. I also find it sad that there seems to be a lack of guys willing to go down. I don't think of it as something I do TO my girlfriend as much as it is something I do with her. I'm proud to say she's had an orgasm every time for over a year. Also, what anonymous said about "so much to learn" is true- men who are new to sex probably think the penis is good enough to induce orgasm for his partner. I think the tongue is far better, but Girls: don't expect him to know to do this. Communication is key to a fulfilling sexual relationship. Tell him you want it if you do, explaining that it is a great way (not the only way) to give you an orgasm. If he is interested in your pleasure, he will be likely to try. Respect him if he has a problem with it, but don't drop the subject. Explore the reasons and you may find he has some misconceptions about oral. Guys: knowing how to give oral is a great way to get to know what she likes. Don't assume you know what good sex is. Ask her what she likes. <- This is very important. You may find that giving pleasure is a thrill itself. Hope this wasn't too lengthy. Happy orgasms,

    Anonymous.

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  3. I was hooking up with a guy for three years, which is how long it took him to go down on me. He did it on his own, I never asked him to. He later told me just pleasing me got him horny. He said it was one of the biggest turn ons. But one of the reasons he never went down on me is because like Anonymous said, i never asked him to and He just assumed he new what good sex was. he said he thought i had been happy with our sex life because i never communicated otherwise. SO communication is key, I also thought it was time to tell him I had never had an orgasm in the three years we had been sleeping together, and i didnt tell him because i didnt want to hurt his feelings,but after i shared that with him, he tried soooo much harder to please me in every way possible. GUYS CANT READ OUR MINDS! we cant expect them to know how we feel. we have to communicate.

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  4. Male, 21.

    Going down on a girl is awesome. Period.

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  5. Its fun to do, but it takes effort. I surprise my g/f with it here and there, but i don't really enjoy it that much...I don't know how women dont get stiff jaws, cause man after a good 10-15 minutes my jaw is just sore. But she digs it, so eh. I would never do it with a one night stand, because, well...shes already naked in my bed, its not like I would have needed to do much more to get inside her, so why waste the effort?

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  6. Is it weird that i'm a girl and i personally think female oral sex is "nasty"? If i wouldn't go down on myself, then i see no reason in expecting anyone else to.

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  7. I'm pretty sure a guy wouldn't go down on himself either, but he still gets girls to go down on him. It's not about how attractive it is or if it's "nasty" or not, it's about how good it feels.

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  8. I enjoy going down on a girl as long as she is clean down there.

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  9. I understand how it may seem nasty if you would do it to your self, but i think no one male or female would want to do it to themselves and there is no harm in trying. I used to feel uncomfortable when my BF would ask me if he could do it! I too used to think it was wierd! but once he did it and i communicate to him what feels good and bad then it was GREAT! no "nasty" thoughts after that.

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  10. Yeah nothing nasty about it if it's clean

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  11. Female 24

    My bf LOVES to go down on me but honestly I don't really get much out of it. Very seldomly do I get turned on by it but he does so I don't complain. I'm more of a breast and neck kind of girl but I'm willing to comprimise :)

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